Well, things got so bad at our usual forum and blog, that the owner had to set it back to private. Anyone that she did not know, was deleted from the member list. The only way that anyone can become a member now, is if they are known by one of us, or all of us. No one that just lurks, but does not post......no harassing comments left to us on the blog.
I hate that it had to come to this, but when people are told over and over that they are not wanted there, but refuse to go away, you have no choice, but to make things where they cannot access anything. From this point forward, our forum and blog will continue to be private/members only. It will never be set where outsiders can come back to stalk and harass us.
We are all so very thankful for this! Of course, I'm sure that it will be just a matter of time, before our stalkers/bullies will try to find a way around this, or try to find another place that we post, where they can keep up with us and harass us even more.
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
When does it stop?
When you have someone that is stalking and harassing you and your friends, do you ever wonder when it will stop?
If they are posting on a forum and you respond to them, they start to call you names and make up lies about you. If you ignore them.....well, they still do the same thing. It seems that no matter what you do, they refuse to leave you alone.
One of the ladies on our forum, owns her own business. It is a family business, where both she and her husband work, along with their son-in-law. This ladies' husband will tell you up front that his wife owns the business and that he just works for her. Our cyber bully. Ms. A, has decided that the business is owned by the husband and regardless to how many times you tell her to the contrary, she will swear that she has seen the business license and that we are all lying, because she knows for a fact that the husband owns the company.
It amazes me that this person refuses to leave us alone. Even though we know that she does not have any money, and that she does not own anything of value, we have threatened to file law suits against her for the stalking and harassment. A couple of us have even talked with lawyers, who assure us that if a lawsuit is indeed filed, we may not be able to collect a monetary award, we can at least get a court order that will restrain her from having any contact with us in any manner. After having several conversations regarding this situation, we have come to the conclusion that it would be worth it, just to stop her from ever coming to a place where we all hang out.
What do you think????????
If they are posting on a forum and you respond to them, they start to call you names and make up lies about you. If you ignore them.....well, they still do the same thing. It seems that no matter what you do, they refuse to leave you alone.
One of the ladies on our forum, owns her own business. It is a family business, where both she and her husband work, along with their son-in-law. This ladies' husband will tell you up front that his wife owns the business and that he just works for her. Our cyber bully. Ms. A, has decided that the business is owned by the husband and regardless to how many times you tell her to the contrary, she will swear that she has seen the business license and that we are all lying, because she knows for a fact that the husband owns the company.
It amazes me that this person refuses to leave us alone. Even though we know that she does not have any money, and that she does not own anything of value, we have threatened to file law suits against her for the stalking and harassment. A couple of us have even talked with lawyers, who assure us that if a lawsuit is indeed filed, we may not be able to collect a monetary award, we can at least get a court order that will restrain her from having any contact with us in any manner. After having several conversations regarding this situation, we have come to the conclusion that it would be worth it, just to stop her from ever coming to a place where we all hang out.
What do you think????????
Monday, July 13, 2009
Chapter 2 - Cyber Bullies
Here is Chapter 2.
After our friend setting up a new site for us, once again Ms. A hunted the web until she found us. She has constantly stalked and harassed us on the new forum and blog. We have been called liars, stalkers, and the funniest one of all, is that she likes to call US the bullies.
Ms. A does not work. She is in her late 20's and claims that she is disabled and therefore unable to work. She spends her time posting exceptionally nasty things, that are unfit for the eyes to see. The owner of the forum and blog, has set the site to private, where you must be a member to read or post anything. It has been left this way for weeks at a time. Just as soon as the site is opened back up to the public, Ms. A is there spouting off her filth once again. She constantly watches the site, just waiting for it to be set to public again, so that she can strike.
We have tried explaining to her over and over again that it is HER coming to where we post. It is HER hunting us down. BUT, in her small mind, WE are the ones stalking and harassing her.
Ms. A has a new friend, Ms. B. Ms. B has now started to post on the blog, acting like an uninterested party, defending Ms. A. Of course, since the owner of the site can track IP's, we know who is posting these things. Once again, it is pure trash and lies.
The owner of our site is married to a police officer. According to Ms. B, this officer is being investigated for interaction with a prostitute. However, no one, not even the officer knows anything about this. He is still working every day. He has not been put on any type of leave, which happens when they are being investigated for inappropriate actions.
According to Ms. B, I am a drug addict. My doctors in Canada have caught on to me trying to get drugs, so now I have to go to a doctor in Alabama to get my drugs. I have ONE doctor in Canada. He is the only one that writes my prescriptions and knows exactly what meds I am taking and why. I use one pharmacy. My pharmacist knows exactly what I take. They know that I never call them up and say, oh I lost my meds and need a new RX for some more. In over 5 years, I have NEVER had to have any medication refilled, until the time that it is due. I'm also curious as to how I am using a doctor in Huntsville, Alabama to get drugs, when I am in Canada??? I am in Alabama in the spring and in the winter to spend time with my children and grandchildren. However, the only time that I have had to see a doctor there, is when I've become ill, or had an accident which required medical attention.
These are only 2 instances of posts made my Ms. B. She has had such stories to tell about each of us that post on the site.
The funny thing is, that we have found out that Ms. B has quite a past. She has gone so far as to sue one of the governors of the State of Alabama. Her husband has been in jail for shooting up a car, or something to that affect. None of her children have graduated from high school.....they are all drop-outs. One of her daughters married at a very young age, because she was pregnant. Everyone that knows Ms. B and her family, have told us that they have some mental problems. Ms. B has run for several political offices in her area.......but never even come close to being elected. It seems that she will do most anything to get attention.
If anyone out there is having the same problems as we are....please know that you are not alone. Unfortunately, there are some very sick people in this world. We have all come to the conclusion that these people become cyber bullies, because their lives are lacking something very important. They are doing this to people, simply to get attention.......even it if is negative attention. They have nothing in their lives to be proud of and are jealous of those of us that are lucky enough to have wonderful families and happy lives. We can only hope that someday, something will happen to give them a true purpose and that when this happens, they will cease to become cyber bullies.
After our friend setting up a new site for us, once again Ms. A hunted the web until she found us. She has constantly stalked and harassed us on the new forum and blog. We have been called liars, stalkers, and the funniest one of all, is that she likes to call US the bullies.
Ms. A does not work. She is in her late 20's and claims that she is disabled and therefore unable to work. She spends her time posting exceptionally nasty things, that are unfit for the eyes to see. The owner of the forum and blog, has set the site to private, where you must be a member to read or post anything. It has been left this way for weeks at a time. Just as soon as the site is opened back up to the public, Ms. A is there spouting off her filth once again. She constantly watches the site, just waiting for it to be set to public again, so that she can strike.
We have tried explaining to her over and over again that it is HER coming to where we post. It is HER hunting us down. BUT, in her small mind, WE are the ones stalking and harassing her.
Ms. A has a new friend, Ms. B. Ms. B has now started to post on the blog, acting like an uninterested party, defending Ms. A. Of course, since the owner of the site can track IP's, we know who is posting these things. Once again, it is pure trash and lies.
The owner of our site is married to a police officer. According to Ms. B, this officer is being investigated for interaction with a prostitute. However, no one, not even the officer knows anything about this. He is still working every day. He has not been put on any type of leave, which happens when they are being investigated for inappropriate actions.
According to Ms. B, I am a drug addict. My doctors in Canada have caught on to me trying to get drugs, so now I have to go to a doctor in Alabama to get my drugs. I have ONE doctor in Canada. He is the only one that writes my prescriptions and knows exactly what meds I am taking and why. I use one pharmacy. My pharmacist knows exactly what I take. They know that I never call them up and say, oh I lost my meds and need a new RX for some more. In over 5 years, I have NEVER had to have any medication refilled, until the time that it is due. I'm also curious as to how I am using a doctor in Huntsville, Alabama to get drugs, when I am in Canada??? I am in Alabama in the spring and in the winter to spend time with my children and grandchildren. However, the only time that I have had to see a doctor there, is when I've become ill, or had an accident which required medical attention.
These are only 2 instances of posts made my Ms. B. She has had such stories to tell about each of us that post on the site.
The funny thing is, that we have found out that Ms. B has quite a past. She has gone so far as to sue one of the governors of the State of Alabama. Her husband has been in jail for shooting up a car, or something to that affect. None of her children have graduated from high school.....they are all drop-outs. One of her daughters married at a very young age, because she was pregnant. Everyone that knows Ms. B and her family, have told us that they have some mental problems. Ms. B has run for several political offices in her area.......but never even come close to being elected. It seems that she will do most anything to get attention.
If anyone out there is having the same problems as we are....please know that you are not alone. Unfortunately, there are some very sick people in this world. We have all come to the conclusion that these people become cyber bullies, because their lives are lacking something very important. They are doing this to people, simply to get attention.......even it if is negative attention. They have nothing in their lives to be proud of and are jealous of those of us that are lucky enough to have wonderful families and happy lives. We can only hope that someday, something will happen to give them a true purpose and that when this happens, they will cease to become cyber bullies.
Saturday, July 4, 2009
Being stalked by a cyber bully
Have you ever been stalked and harassed by a cyber bully? What makes someone want to do something like this? Do they have so little attention in their "real" lives, that they have to find someone in the cyber world to try to obtain attention from?
Some of my friends and I are being stalked and harassed by not 1, but 2 of these cyber bullies. We will call the original stalker Ms. A and her friend that has joined in, Ms. B.
My friends and I are a group of people that all have homes and families. We have a special site that was set up by one of the members of our group, where we can go to post and just have fun. We all love to joke around, laugh and just enjoy life. At no time, have any of us hunted anyone down to harass. We just like to be left alone.
A little over 2 years ago, we met Ms. A, on a forum that was set up for Huntsville, Alabama. Ms. B also posted there, but on the forum for a different city.
When I first found this Huntsville forum, I lurked for a while to see what types of subjects were being discussed. I saw and read a thread started by Ms. A, in which she was laying out some of her supposed health issues. I noticed that almost every reply was negative. This made me feel sorry for this woman. I didn't understand why people would be so negative with regard to someone being ill. I finally posted for the 1st time, telling Ms. A that I understood what she was talking about, as one of my best friends also suffered from one of the illnesses that she had described. To my horror and amazement, instead of simply saying something like "Thank you for understanding", this woman went off on me. She accused me of laughing at her, making fun of her and basically calling her a liar! Right then and there, I came to understand why people were responding to her like they were. This woman was saying anything and everything that was rude and uncalled for, just to get attention. She even went so far as to post the personal and private info on one of the women, that became my friend. Ms. A had this woman's name, address and phone number posted on a public forum for anyone to read. Of course, as she does with everything else, she has denied being the person that did this, even though we all read her post.
Things became so bad with Ms. A, that someone offered to set up a private forum, where we could post and not have to be worried about Ms. A being allowed on the site. This worked well for a time, and then some things came up that several of us did not agree with, so we decided to leave the new forum, of our own accord. We were not asked to leave or banned, as Ms. A has proclaimed. We just thought that it would be better for us to find another place to post.
One of the ladies in our "friendship circle" was nice enough to take the time and effort to set up a new site for us. This is a forum where no posts are deleted for any reason, anyone is welcomed to sign up for the forum, and we can all just post and have fun with each other.
Can you guess what happened to us????? Well, stay tuned for part 2 and I'll tell you all what has been going on with our forum lately.
See you soon.............Deb
Some of my friends and I are being stalked and harassed by not 1, but 2 of these cyber bullies. We will call the original stalker Ms. A and her friend that has joined in, Ms. B.
My friends and I are a group of people that all have homes and families. We have a special site that was set up by one of the members of our group, where we can go to post and just have fun. We all love to joke around, laugh and just enjoy life. At no time, have any of us hunted anyone down to harass. We just like to be left alone.
A little over 2 years ago, we met Ms. A, on a forum that was set up for Huntsville, Alabama. Ms. B also posted there, but on the forum for a different city.
When I first found this Huntsville forum, I lurked for a while to see what types of subjects were being discussed. I saw and read a thread started by Ms. A, in which she was laying out some of her supposed health issues. I noticed that almost every reply was negative. This made me feel sorry for this woman. I didn't understand why people would be so negative with regard to someone being ill. I finally posted for the 1st time, telling Ms. A that I understood what she was talking about, as one of my best friends also suffered from one of the illnesses that she had described. To my horror and amazement, instead of simply saying something like "Thank you for understanding", this woman went off on me. She accused me of laughing at her, making fun of her and basically calling her a liar! Right then and there, I came to understand why people were responding to her like they were. This woman was saying anything and everything that was rude and uncalled for, just to get attention. She even went so far as to post the personal and private info on one of the women, that became my friend. Ms. A had this woman's name, address and phone number posted on a public forum for anyone to read. Of course, as she does with everything else, she has denied being the person that did this, even though we all read her post.
Things became so bad with Ms. A, that someone offered to set up a private forum, where we could post and not have to be worried about Ms. A being allowed on the site. This worked well for a time, and then some things came up that several of us did not agree with, so we decided to leave the new forum, of our own accord. We were not asked to leave or banned, as Ms. A has proclaimed. We just thought that it would be better for us to find another place to post.
One of the ladies in our "friendship circle" was nice enough to take the time and effort to set up a new site for us. This is a forum where no posts are deleted for any reason, anyone is welcomed to sign up for the forum, and we can all just post and have fun with each other.
Can you guess what happened to us????? Well, stay tuned for part 2 and I'll tell you all what has been going on with our forum lately.
See you soon.............Deb
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